Right, so if the title wasn't obvious enough – I'm taking a diversion from the foss-archeology series to talk about something topical – notably the current brouhaha caused by Rebecca Watson and that video. Now for those who aren't aware of it, here is the what happened. Miss Watson was speaking at a student conference as a prominent feminist voice. After the conference and subsequent festivities she was headed toward her hotel room when she found herself alone in the elevator with a young man. The young man told her that he'd enjoyed her talk, found her interesting, and asked if she'd like to come to his room for coffee.
Miss Watson declined the invitation and he respectfully accepted her decision. At no point did he act the least bit aggressively. At no point was he pushy. At no point did he suggest that he would not accept whatever she chose to answer with grace and respect. Which he did, even though he did not get the answer he had obviously hoped for. What is more, he didn't push any further after that no. They got to their floors and went their own ways.
We know the full details because there is a video of it, Miss Watson posted it on her blog and then decried it as a sexist move to proposition her in an elevator, declaring it creepy. It blew up into the major feminist argument of the day. An example of how women are threatened and viewed as sex-toys by men how men have all the power and how evil we all are.
Richard Dawkin's made a now infamous comment about it decrying the silliness of it all – and now they all hate him. Well I think I agree with him – what's more he did not go far enough. I will get to his argument in a moment, but first I want to state my own view. Now that I despise discrimination in all it's forms is something I deem beyond dispute – I have written extensively on the topic many times, most recently here. Well here's the reality – the sexist discrimination in this event was entirely on the part of Miss Watson.
She says she felt she was in a threatening situation. Really ? Because she was alone in an elevator with a person who just quite coincidentally happened to have a penis ? That is the ultimate sexism – yes some people rape, yes more of them are men than women – but to just automatically assume anybody who was born male would seek to act on sexual desire by force is nothing but outright gender discrimination. It's assuming behavior on the part of a person purely on the basis of that person's gender.
Her reaction there was nothing short of unmitigated and absolutely inexcusable sexism. The man in fact had not exerted any power in the situation at all – in fact she had all the power. He indicated his desire (and whether he did so politely or not is really quite beside the point) – and then left the decision entirely in her hands. She could choose. If she shared his desire she could say yes, if she didn't she could say no.
By her reasoning all flirtation is sexual harassment (I bet a lot of women who enjoy flirting would hate it if they weren't allowed to). Or perhaps only women should ever proposition somebody (since many feminists have fought hard to have it be acceptable for women to do so) ? Is that not sexist ? She had the power to say yes or no. He did not in any way seek to force the decision upon her, he merely indicated to her his desire and let her decide. Nothing was to happen unless it was a mutual desire and since it wasn't, indeed nothing did happen.
She was not threatened, she was not being a victim of somebody abusing his power – she was the one who had the power and her judgement of the situation was utterly ruined by her sexist view of all men as violent predators – even when an individual man had done absolutely nothing to deserve that assessment.
I don't even think there was any sexual objectification here – the man had heard her talk and claims to have respected her views. Finding somebody attractive does not imply that you don't value them in other regards. Surely Caryn would be offended by the suggestion that because she thinks I'm sexy she cannot also enjoy conversations with me about intellectual matters and respect me as a professional and as a person ? I certainly respect her intellect and her personality and think she is a wonderful person – I also find her very attractive, and none of these things are mutually exclusive.
Nothing he had done suggested that he only thought of her sexually – and even if he had – since this is not a work situation, since he has no influence on her future and didn't even suggest a relationship, would that be so bad ? He was interested in a one-night-stand if and ONLY if she shared his interest. If they had both shared it, then it was perhaps objectifying but it would not be in the least harmful to anybody – in fact it would have been gratifying to them both. Since the interest was one-sided, it had no impact whatsoever -except to give her something to shout about and get more famous for.
Which brings us to Dawkins's view, her anti-male sexism is bad enough but it's not the worst of it. She and her supporters have declared this a perfect example of "potential sexual assault". I have to side with Dawkins here – this world is full of people who suffer under very real discrimination, including institutionalized sexual discrimination in countries where women get the death penalty for adultery, where female circumcision is promoted,. where women have to wear veils and get no decision-making whatsoever. And the real victims of sex-crimes be they men, women or children. Calling "would you like some coffee ?" potential sexual assault massively demeans the plight of all the victims of real sex-crimes and is insulting to those who suffer under real discrimination.
Yes, it's insulting to those people who suffer under the very real effects of humanities worst discriminatory practices to suggest that what Miss Watson experienced was remotely comparable, in particular it's the worst kind of demeaning to those who have experienced the horror that is real rape or sexual assault to call that little event "potential sexual assault".
That is why I call her not only a sexist but a traitor to the very cause she claims to be a voice for as well. Shame on you.
As I make no secret off (to the point of having written an article on the topic for a major national publication), I've been in the situation of being a victim of domestic-abuse. I am not a victim now, I am a survivor and I refused to let what happen there ruin my life, and I also neither emotionally nor rationally consider there to be any truth to the suggestion that all women would do what that particular woman had done to me.
It is therefore quite personally insulting to hear somebody declare that being propositioned politely was comparable to what it's like to go through real abuse, assault or rape – even if I've experienced only one of out three I'm quite sure it's the least horrific of them so I can only sympathize deeply with those who have experienced the others. Miss Watson is not among them, but is trying to associate her non-event with their plight for her own gain – exploiting them further and the only justification she can offer for this association is the sexist and outright wrong mistrust of all men.
Well I say it again Miss Watson: Shame on you.