I have, over the course of my life, dealt with discrimination on several levels – and come to hate it in all it's forms. But what makes it so hard to deal with is that it is so hard to define. For me the definition has, over time, come to be rather simple: discrimination is any judgement made about somebody that is not based on their personal choices.
This definition isn't perfect – because there are still argument about whether some things are choices or not. A good example is the continuing discrimination against non-heterosexual people in society. The worst of this discrimination comes from fundamentalist religions who tend to insist on declaring that it is a (sinful) choice – and thus it's okay to treat those who make it horribly.
Now firstly science has proved beyond any reasonable doubt that homosexuality is a natural biological occurrence affecting roughly 10% of the population of any sexual species – which includes humans. It's a genetic thing (well actually not quite genetic – it's epigenetic but that's beside the point) – not a choice. Which isn't to say that some people may not make a choice in this regard, but considering that you would be choosing to spend your life ostracized and maltreated, this must be a tiny minority.
Secondly – even if it was a choice – I don't think that my definition gives you the right to mistreat anybody. Discrimination based on sexual preference is frankly among the more horrible kinds – and frequently institutionalized.
It is also wrong to think that a simple definition only gives simple answers. For example – none of us choose our race, so I am utterly against judging people based on race (that is essentially discrimination to me). This is just as true when somebody declares that black people are "lazy" as when people declare that white men are privileged abusers of power.
The problem is – previous institutionalized prejudice have created certain social inequalities along such non-choice lines and how to deal with these? I had coffee at Seattle over lunch. I could not help but notice that – barring one, all the customers were white, all the staff were black. This is a consequence of societal inequality created by a previous generation – but it's an inequality that exists nonetheless.
It's easy to say "if we just stop all discrimination it will correct itself in time" but that means being prepared to live with several more generations of this inequality persisting. That is hardly ideal. The trouble is – every attempted solution such as affirmative action can only be implemented by once more having institutionalized prejudice (defined as any case where everybody is not equal before a law – any law that gives some people precedence over others). Prejudice that may restore the balance (though we've seen no evidence of this) but only perpetuates the root cause of group-based exclusion that led to it in the first place.
Ironically – there has never been a country where affirmative action came with a time-limit. Which would seem sensible if it's true goal was to simply correct an inequality of the past – after all, you don't spend forever correcting a problem, and if that's how long it takes – then you obviously need a different solution.
My definition also doesn't preclude all judgement. When a thief steals, they chose to steal – so we can judge that as wrong. When a man loves another man – they are acting on a born-in imperative, and to judge that is not acceptable.
This may be seen as morally wrong by you – but you're not being forced to participate, and an inclusive society will treat those who are different with respect and dignity even if we don't approve of them or wish to live as they do. Fundamentalism in all it's forms cannot accept this – and has thus become one of the great evils in our society, whether it's Christian, Muslim, Budhist or Atheist fundamentalism is really rather beside the point.
There are even greater complexities -between the cultures we choose and the ones we are born into. I am born to be an Afrikaaner but I see myself also as a geek, an anarchist and a metalhead – and these are valid cultural identities as well. I was born to love rugby and braaivleis, but as it happens – I don't particularly like watching sports – not even rugby. This is odd in my religion, and I should have the right to make that choice.
That's the core of what I'm trying to say here – discrimination is one thing that is wrong in society and by my definition easy to recognize – but it's not everything that is wrong. Our lack of compassion and empathy and inclusion is just as big a wrong that often (but not always) overlaps.
We can judge as wrong those choices that harm others, but other choices should be met with acceptance and tolerance and compassion. And never assume we can even tell what really is choice and what isn't – and where something is provably not a matter of choice (such as race, sexual preference or gender) then making any assumptions whatsoever based on this is by definition a guarantee of harm.
This is where archetypes cause inevitable problems. Is Castor Semenya a man or a woman ? Well it turns out the definitions are simply not as clear-cut as we want it to be -and one talented young athlete had his/her life ruined because of this. Such horrors come from archetypes. Does a woman have to have ovaries to be a woman ? What about a woman who had ovarian cancer ? Does she stop being a woman if they are removed ? If you're born without them – should you lose the right to participate in sports forever ?
Mark Twain famously said that truth is stranger than fiction because truth doesn't have to make sense. This is a very true statement. The world has no compulsion to comply with our primitive brains and their limited definitions – and the only way to build stable, peaceful societies in such a complex world is to have open minds. Accepting of difference and constantly battling against our inner prejudices and presumptions.
Every assumption you make about a person is a potential act of discrimination. Only when you realize this, can you truly treat all people fairly and equally. This is a hard ideal to live up to – hell I am far from perfect at it- but it's the only ideal worth striving for.
So to those who read this, I want to leave you with a simple task. Take your race, think of a different once and spend just five minutes thinking about what your life would have been like if you had been born as a member of that race. This act of trying to imagine what somebody else thinks, feels and goes through in life is called empathy. It's a basic human survival trait evolved over aeons – we all have it, we can use it, and through using it, make a better world -because that simple act, is how we breed tolerance, acceptance and all those other ideals which allow humans who are different to nonetheless coexist in peace and harmony.
And if thinking peace and harmony are nice things to have makes me a pinko-commie-liberal in your eyes… well then you're exactly the kind of fundamentalist I despise who makes this world as horrible as it is. Nationalism and patriotism are, after all, just another kind of prejudicial fundamentalism. That said, I can and do try to empathize with those who hold such views. It is very hard to find a way to think respectfully toward somebodies views when the very essence of those views is a lack of respect for mine – but I do try anyway, because not trying would be give up on the very essence of what my views are about.
I do hope that trying to talk compassionately to those so filled with hatred for all that is other from themselves, is a better way to perhaps teach them compassion than to respond to hatred with hatred, for in their minds, it would only prove them right.


